Tuesday, February 12, 2019

College Relationships Part 2: Flirting as Told by Two Gents and T&P from Wake Forest University

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I wanted to talk a little bit about LOVE!
My first blog post about college relationships from this summer was a huge success! I interviewed friends from all different colleges and compiled a deep analysis of college relationships.
This time around, I asked two of my guy friends from Wake Forest to give me their answers and now I am going to share them with you!

What is flirting? How do you flirt?
Guy 1: “I’m really nice to girls in a really goofy way. I’m not smooth, I just try to be as genuine as possible. If you can make a girl laugh, that’s my goal, it breaks down the wall of awkwardness and makes the girl more comfortable.”
Guy 2: “Flirting is the process of ultimately finding out if the individual is attracted to you back through verbal and physical signals. I hate games, but through flattery, asking them out on a date, asking them to a party, making them laugh allows you to see if they are into you.”
T&P: “I smile. I usually complement the guy and try to make him laugh.”

How do you approach someone in class or at a party?
Guy 1: “Find a similarity, find a common interest.”
Guy 2: “In class, I would sit next to them, come in early, ask them for help on something, and then probably give them a complement and then invite them to a party or get a meal.”
T&P: “If it’s in class, I talk to them about the class and maybe ask to study together or look over papers and exchange phone numbers. If it’s at a party and they are wearing a jersey or a cool shirt, I will go talk to them about it, and usually make a joke about them not being from New York, and how New Yorkers are better than whatever state they are from. This always gets the ball rolling!”
How do you know if someone is flirting?
Guy 1: “If you don’t know a guy and he comes up to you, 9/10 times he’s flirting with you.”
Guy 2: “If they follow you on Instagram, and you get their number and they add you on Snapchat, and they comment on your Instagram photos, then they are flirting.”
T&P: “All of the above!”

How to meet a possible significant other in college?
Guy 1: “Several different places: 1. In the classroom, sit next to them, introduce yourself. 2. At parties, but be weary, you can’t go to frat basements to find love. A hookup yes, but not a girlfriend. 3. Clubs. 4. Literally anywhere.”
Guy 2: “Tinder or in class. In class, I would sit next to a cute girl, and say hi.”
T&P: “Go to class and meet people! Make friends with everyone! Go abroad! Go to parties! I have met so many people that are friends of friends at the dining hall or at parties, and that have turned into crushes or possible significant others. You never know who you are going to meet and who is going to turn into a crush! Be nice to everyone! And meet everyone you can.”

How do you go from friends to more?
Guy 1: “Take things slow, start talking in class and then invite them to get lunch after class and then keep going and going. The most important thing is to get to know someone. It’s a relative time frame, you have to know them until a spark. You can’t purse someone just based on if someone is cool. If you don’t feel a connection with someone than you are not compatible. It’s good to be friends and be as comfortable as possible as friends before you move into a relationship. You either are friends and then date or you meet at a party or in class and date. If you aren’t friends with the person, and they are only a significant other, you can’t be yourself.”
Guy 2: “It would usually be being friends for a while and then asking them out on a date, or any situation that would lead back to your room or theirs and you can make out.”
T&P: “Take it slow, be friends, get to actually know the guy and then if you want to make the first move do it! Ask them to go out to eat, one on one, and see where the feelings are.”

Can guys and girls be friends?
Guy 1: “Guys and girls can’t be friends.”
Guy 2: “Yes, but only if one of those individuals is in a serious relationship.”
T&P: “NOPE!”

How is dating different the older you get in college? How is college and high school dating different?
Guy 1: “As you get older being in a relationship means more. When I was younger having a girlfriend was just something to have. When you get older, you find out who you are and can figure out what you want in a partner.”
Guy 2: “You become far less susceptible to playing games, you become far more direct and blunter. After a long-term relationship, you become far better at reading physical and non-physical signals. Depending on the individual, your standards can drop at the end of a long-term relationship, or you will be far pickier, because you know exactly what you like and what you don’t like, and you can narrow down your criteria.”
T&P: “I have noticed, that guys tend to settle down a bit and slow down the older they get. Some of them are done partying and being crazy for the most part and like to actually date, but others will always be in the party hook-up mentality.”

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